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"You're not listening to me?!"

Do you feel yourself say that one too many times? Do you feel powerless and helpless and out of control sometimes?

Do the frustration and the angst consume you?

There is a key intention I have for this post.

To heal your addiction to having your child listening to you. 

Because when your attention is on your child listening to you, most probably what will be heightened is when they aren't. 

When a parent exclaims, "You're not listening to me", what they mean is...

"Your children didn't come with a manual" - however, what if there is a manual for parenting?

Let's entertain this idea...

Imagine the same conflict and challenges are coming up over and over again... 

When you first become a parent, it's the challenge of sleep, the challenge of feeling lonely, the challenge of navigating the transition of being a couple to parents and a family... the challenge of grieving your past sense of self...

As the years go on - the initial challenges become normalised.....

Easter has just passed - and whether you're one to celebrate Easter or not, I wanted to share a beautiful lesson I've learnt from Easter.

This isn't meant to be a blasphemous post, nor do I want to offend anyone. It is just my take on the Easter story.

Growing up with a strong Catholic influence, I was taught that Jesus died for our sins and sacrificed his life for Love.

I was also taught that God sacrificed his only son for Love.

And, as you can imagine, I grew up with a narrative around Lo...

"What's your biggest struggle in parenting?" I asked my client.

He pauses. He looks down - then looks up at me.

"That we have a teenager and that we're not prepared to do what is needed to parent him. We have trouble reaching him."

"What's your wife's biggest struggle in parenting?" I asked

"Her disconnection with him. There is no connection. And she can't stand him." He answers.

"When was the last time you both sat down and spent time talking about parenting?".

The father paused. Took a b...

One of the biggest fears for any child - no matter if they are 6 months old, 5 years old, 16 years old or even 21 years old is this...

The fear of being invisible. 

The fear of being unseen. Unrecognised. Unacknowledged.

This fear isn't just limited to children. It is in all of us.

The hardest thing about parenting is how we navigate feeling "unseen".

Unseen by our spouse, unseen by our children, unseen by those around us. The experience of feeling unseen breeds resentment, breeds obligation,...

What a global whirlwind we are in now!... You can laugh, you can cry... and in fact, ALL emotions and feelings are valid.

What is happening in our world, with over 7 billion people will have 7 billion different interpretations and "realities". 

In the context of families, these are some of the things you may be dealing with:

• I'm currently pregnant, and I'm worried about my health (what if I catch something?!)
• What if any of my children get ill?!
• What's going to happen to our finances and
...