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I know you're really really trying. You're holding it all together... and you're trying to keep your $h!t together so your children don't see you falling apart...

And I see you.... I get it... I know you're really trying. 

Am I doing everything right?

Am I making sure they are ok?

Can they come to me when they are upset?

All of this is weighing heavy on you... 

This is a short video training that has helped so many families and parents come back to why they became parents in the first plac...

Do you ever feel like you're having the same argument, same conflict, same tension with your partner/ children over and over - and it's not going anywhere?

Does it seem defeating, and it's as though you can't find a way forward?

And do you find yourself in these times either being defensive, needing to be right and having the last say, stonewalling and being really guarded, or even the worst part of you comes out, and you're being spiteful and eye-rolling?

Here's what I invite you to consider.

There's something about me that you might not know...

I use to struggle in relationships.

And when I say struggle, I found relationships (including friendships) hard, challenging, and I could never believe that I was "wanted", or anyone enjoyed my company. 

This went well into my 30's. 

When friends would call and ask to hang out - My immediate thought would be, "I have nothing to offer or what if they find me boring?"

And... there was such a predictable pattern for me. I would find a way to ...

Do you sometimes feel you're failing your children?

Or do you sometimes feel you wish you had someone tell you exactly what to do so you don't screw this up?

Or are you constantly worried and trying to be so perfect that you can't seem to relax and enjoy the journey of being a parent?

....and then that turns into guilt, shame, or regret?

Do you want to find out how we really fail our children?

...I can tell you - and once I do share this, ignorance is no longer bliss.

There is no turning b...

We all want deep connection - with our children, with our partners/ spouses....and unconsciously we push them away.

I was asked this question on a podcast interview this week:

"What do we do as parents, that destroy the connection with our children?"

It's a powerful question. 

This is my take.

The 3 things you do, that kill the connection between your child and you (and really with you and anyone!)...and push others away are:

1. Your expectations of them
2. Taking things personally
3. Trying t...