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I'm in bed, and the crying won't stop. I've never felt sadness, grief, loss, and despair like what I'm feeling at this moment. Depths of pain I've never had the courage to confront. 

It's relentless - and I want it to stop. Yet, I also know I have to allow the emotions to run through. Suppressing them or trying to make myself feel better and halting this process of healing will only mean it will stay in my body.

John's next to me. He feels helpless. He wants to fix it.

"Is there anything I ca...

John had just reacted to Avery. I step in and defend Avery.

In John's world, he felt criticised and judged by me. In my world, I'm trying to get him to see the world from Avery's point of view. 

Both realities are valid - and at that moment, John doesn't feel seen, heard, and understood.

"Give me some grace... Be patient with me like you are him. I am learning too.... ". He exclaims. I can see he is hurt. Defeated. 

I would never forget this moment. It was a few years ago, and this was a pivot...

We're at this unique time in our world where it's now that we recognise the importance of our emotional and mental wellbeing.

With lockdowns and disruption to the attachment of our "normal" daily life - the gift that lives within that is that every single soul, that's alive right now, is going through their own "birthing" and "rebirthing" journey.

That first year of parenthood is an opportunity to learn - because it's easier to learn than it is to unlearn. 

I often wish that hospitals or midw...

Imagine... your child is 21 years old. You're sitting opposite them.

• What are you talking about?
• How do they feel about you?
• How do you feel about them?
• What's the connection like?
• What has it been like to be their parent?
• In your child's world, how did you feel about Parenting?

I remember asking my husband, John these exact questions before our first-born, Avery entered Earthside. 

As a 9-year-old, 16-year-old, and even to my adult years - I found that I couldn't "be myself" with my...

"We didn't start a family to grow apart."

I remember this thought clearly.

Entering into parenthood, John and I thought we had an amazing foundation and partnership - and that parenthood would naturally expand the connection.

For the first 2 years as new parents, we were struggling - It was my biggest challenge. 

I felt disconnected and wanted more connection.

We weren't aligned with how we wanted to parent.

I felt that we weren't on the same page or the same team. 

It was my biggest stru...

Is it important to you to feel great? - It's a serious question.

...and how important is it really?... 

This isn't about judgement - I invite you to answer this, free from guilt

When we can be honest with ourselves - the guilt, the shame, the judgement to ourselves no longer has power. 

Guilt/ shame/ judgement - those experiences that "rob us of joy" only arise when we live in a world of "should".

• I should know better.
• I should do better.
• I should do more.
• I should do self-care.
• I sho
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