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The evolution of human being Oct 20, 2023

Human beings can be destructive.

There are things we do, say... what looks like hatred, unjustified behaviour, and completely horrible ... we will never be able to understand it from the Mind.

Never.

We try to "understand" it. We analyse it. We intellectualize it. We justify it. And we create narratives and stories around it to somehow attempt to make sense of it all.

And you'll never, ever be able to make sense of it all.

Why?.... Because the Mind is an ever-looping mechanism.

I am convinced, I know ...

The one thing I shifted.... that allowed me to receive Love Oct 12, 2023

Once upon a time, I was always disgusted with myself. I didn't know and I didn't think I was... it wasn't something I was conscious or aware of.

It just felt "normal".

I was constantly criticising myself, judging myself, berating myself... it was the voice in my head that would say things like;

"You're so stupid! Don't know you know any better?!"
"You made a mistake - AGAIN!?"
"No-body will ever love you..."

And on and on it went - and I had NO idea.. until I sat in a self-development semina

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How much do you hate being wrong and making mistakes? Oct 04, 2023

If you had to score yourself out of 10, how much do you dislike being wrong and making mistakes?

(This is just for you - so tell the truth - because the truth will set you free).

For me, once upon a time, it was a 10/10. I would even say 100/10.

If I ever made a mistake or got something wrong, no matter how little - I would ruminate on it for weeks. I found it hard to forgive myself... and I would play the scene over and over... I felt it was the end of the world!!

Spending energy on keepi

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What do you rate yourself as a partner? And a parent? Sep 29, 2023

If I was to ask you....

On a scale 1-10 - how proud are you of who you are and how you show up in your relationship, what would you say?

And on a scale 1-10 - how proud are you of who you are and how you show up in your parenting, what would you say?

John and I have been married 9 years and together for almost 13.

Since we started dating, every month for almost 13 years, we celebrate, and we reflect on how we show up and who we want to be for each other.

I didn't grow up witnessing this fro

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Bringing your Highest Self to your marriage, parenting, and family life.... Sep 26, 2023

A few years ago, I had a call with someone who potentially wanted to work with me, who was a Psychologist.

She struggled with this concept of "Having a relationship with your Heart". She laughed when I mentioned that this was what she needed to learn to trust herself.

That conversation has never left me...She had no relationship with Trust. She couldn't trust herself... and she struggled to understand why.

I said, "The only way you can learn to Trust yourself is to build a relationship with your H...

Would you learn how to knit to break generational cycles? Sep 20, 2023

What does it look like to heal generational wounds?

In our family it looks like John learning how to knit.

Every Thursday, John takes Brooklyn to a Steiner Playgroup.

In the playgroup they knit, paint, and do different arts and crafts.

He is the only father who is present every week.

He learnt how to knit to make toys for Brooklyn.

He learnt how to knit so he can help Avery knit as part of his learning at school.

Breaking cycles in our family also looks like:

Brooklyn sharing with us.. "I feel sad an...