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"Who is putting me to bed tonight?"...Avery asks

"Who do you want to put to bed tonight?" I reply

"The person that got angry the most today!" He starts giggling and smiling

I asked, "Why the person that got angry the most today?".

"Because.. we need connection." He responds.

At this moment - I'm so present to the magic of generational healing.

A few days ago I read this from my dear mentor and coach:
"Just witnessed my daughter say something to my husband that I could never say to my Dad. T...

I love that song from the Bee Gees! ...Did you sing to yourself and have the tune in your head as you read the words; "How deep is your love?"

Amazing how that happens right.

Your eyes respond to something you see, and then your mind creates signals in your body - and depending on the age you were, and what was happening in your life, the title of a song that you recognise can produce chemicals in your body that creates a feeling. 

Growing up, were you ever in a relationship where you felt you love...

"Am I screwing up my child?"

... Is this a question you ask? Is this something you worry about?

I remember when I started getting into self-development. I had all these epiphanies and insights into "why I was the way I was" and understood how I inherited certain beliefs and stories about myself from my childhood and how I was raised.

I went through this experience of having a greater understanding of my parents, and I was also judging their parenting. 

I remember (before having kids), thinking, "I'l...

A few days ago, someone contacted me to help them with their parenting.

"I feel so anxious and am constantly worried. I'm trying really hard, and my patience wears thin...I find it soo challenging."

She continues to share about her children. Their challenges. Their behaviours. There was a lot of focus on the children. 

"My 3.5-year-old son is so clingy. Needy. And he won't go to anyone else but me. He is also hitting and biting! My patience wears thin towards the evening. I don't know how to ...

Do you feel that you're always giving? Even when you are running on empty?

And that other's are always taking from you? Especially your children? Partner?

Do you find it hard to ask for help?

Do you find it hard to "receive" support, love, encouragement?

Do you wish... those around you knew how much you were giving, and if only they appreciated it? 

The giving and taking model of Love is what we're here to heal. Before I share about that, I want to share about "Receivership". 

Receivership...

Are you familiar with the Dark Night of the Soul?

In the last few weeks, Fear has visited...(and is still visiting!).    

I can tell. The last time I had insomnia was over 10 years ago.

When my sleep is out, I know the neural pathways, the old programming of anxiousness is coming up.

I haven't been able to sleep... It's consuming, it's heavy.. and it's this delicate line between feeling the feelings, and not being swallowed up by the emotional flooding.

There is knowing that Fear rises when...