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Growing up, my parents loved me. They would remind me how much they have sacrificed, what they have given up, and all they did in the name of "love".

I didn't feel this love. I didn't feel seen. I didn't feel heard. I didn't feel understood.
I knew they "loved" me.

This isn't to blame them or judge their parenting. They did the best they could based on the conscious awareness they had at that moment. 

....and it doesn't negate that I didn't "feel loved". 

Having spent over 12 years in understanding...

What's the first word that comes up when you think about boundaries?

Do you have a powerful relationship to "boundaries"? 

When you set boundaries - do you feel empowered or guilty?

When you don't set boundaries - what's your self-talk?

As a parent, when used in an "empowered" manner, the world of boundaries are created as powerful conditions in which ALL will thrive. 

Boundaries allow a teenager to learn self-restraint, honour their body, and have a posture to avoid succumbing to peer pressure. ...

The most common question and most prominent challenge that I get asked is; "I'm on this path of conscious parenting...And my partner isn't. How do we make this work?"

This past weekend I had the honour of presenting a masterclass; "Parenting from Spirit" as part of The Seven Sisters Online Festival (The largest women's wellness festival in the Southern Hemisphere - which was virtual this year!). 

A beautiful participant asked this question. "What if I'm a conscious parent, and my partner isn't?". ...

Have you ever stopped and wondered for a moment, what is Parenting? What is your relationship to Parenting?

Do you even have a relationship with Parenting?

Imagine Parenting as a person, and this person is sitting opposite you.

How do you feel about them? What emotions does it bring up? Is it expansive or contractive being in their space? Do you feel inspired when you're around this person - or is it draining? 

.... As you answer these questions, please give yourself some grace.

The more awaren...

I was reflecting the other day about this concept; "Parenting is so hard!". 

I invite you to pause for a moment. Think about parenting. Think about your relationship to parenting. 

• Do you feel there are sacrifices?
• Do you feel that your needs come last? That it is ALL about the children?
• Do you feel that sometimes when you look in the mirror, you're just "surviving" and the "you" that you know, is buried under there somewhere?
• Do you sometimes think; "I don't know who I am anymore?"
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When was the last time you found delight in your child?

I love this line from Toni Morrison, "When a child walks in the room, your child or anybody else's child, do your eyes light up? That's what they're looking for."

We had some friends over for dinner - in fact, these friends weren't really interested in catching up with John and me. They couldn't wait to spend time with Avery and Brooklyn. :)

As I watched Avery play and interact with Uncle Dustin - I could sense the joy, the delight, the ...