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The 5 Love Languages by Dr Gary Chapman is life-changing. If you haven't read it, grab a copy! It's one of the most amazing books you can devour for your relationship. 

The premise is this. Each of us "responds" to Love, and feels loved based on any one or a combination of 2 of these Love Languages:

1. Words of Affirmation
2. Quality Time
3. Acts of Service
4. Gifts
5. Physical Touch

It is life-changing as it is "reaffirming" to find out your love language and your partner's love language.

When our par...

How do you know your child feels loved?

.... Before you answer this question, I want to ask you, did you feel loved by your parents?

And when I say "loved" - I mean, you felt seen, heard, and understood. That you felt safe, held, and guided. 

Because we can "intellectually" know our parents love us - and not feel loved by them.

In feeling loved, we feel accepted. We feel honoured. We feel as though they met us where we are, and that who were was enough. We didn't need to be any other way.

So - On a...

I believe there is a myth that you cannot mentally or emotionally prepare yourself for Motherhood or parenthood!

It can start with bringing awareness with the following questions:

- Whose love did you crave for the most when growing up? And who did you think you had to be to receive love and acknowledgement?

- What wounds from family and childhood are unresolved?

- Do you currently feel seen, heard, and understood; can you show up authentically around your parents?

Motherhood is transformat...

History doesn't have to be our destiny. Our past doesn't dictate our future; the pathway to this can only be possible if we alter the narrative of our past.

Making sense, bringing compassion and understanding of our past takes courage. 

Without that understanding, without the awareness - History does repeat itself. 

If you're familiar with Attachment Theory; John and I both grew up in households where it was Avoidant, Ambivalent, and Disorganised. 

It was common to be shamed rather than create...

When Avery was 3 weeks old, I had the biggest epiphany with John. It was the first week back at work for John and my first week alone with Avery (this is where I think modern society has NOT been set up for families to thrive! - Another topic for another day!).

It's the end of the week, and John comes home from work. He is exhausted - and what I see is probably only the surface of what he is feeling within.

I also had a rough day - I was spent. 

I was soo looking forward to John coming home fro...

I know this to be true about parenting.

EVERY person wants to be a great parent. We want to be able to be the kind of parent that is loving, patient, kind - and create an environment for our children to thrive.

We want to be our best. We will to be our best.

So why is it that we sometimes struggle? We don't like who we become when we yell. We don't like who we become when we're consistently tired and stressed.

We may even be consumed with guilt, shame, fear, worry - which then takes away the...